thanks.
it seems that if I choose to go non-mux, I can eliminate the driver transistors and basically just tie all anodes to +170v and simply send bcd nibble changes to each 74141 chip and latch them there until the digit/nibble changes.
I measured about 2ma of current on my nixies and so with 4 nixies on at the same time, its only 16ma of current. I would think that the 555 circuit can drive this, but I guess I'll find out

if I use the arduinix shield, the transistors are there already and I guess I would either not map them to arduino pins or map them to a single pin and make that pin pwm-able so I can dim the lights.
I've used PCF i2c port expander chips before and will likely bring one in for the extra set of 8 bits I need.
I'll post the progress as I get further.
thanks.